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Love and Marriage…

In Uncategorized on June 9, 2010 at 3:36 pm

Sappy post alert!  If those kind of posts aren’t your deal, then please cease reading now.

I’ve been thinking some lately how much marriage has changed our life.  Some good changes and some less desirable changes.  When I married my husband I thought I knew him so well.  We had come in and out of each other’s lives for nearly 7 years.  Most people I knew had married their sweethearts after only two years of knowing them, so surely we were ahead of the game.  Boy, was I entirely wrong.  I look back on those 7 years, and realize that I really only saw glimpses of him, and didn’t really try to see the whole picture, or the nature of a dating relationship doesn’t allow for you to see what God has designed only to be seen in a marriage.  The learning curve was and continues to be steep!

For some women, maybe the man they see more wholly once the wedding cake has been cut is somewhat of a disappointment.  Certainly, there were things that I learned after being married that were a disappointment.  But these had more to do with him being human than with character flaws.  I don’t know that I really knew who or what I was getting myself into.  But one thing I am sure of now, is that I got way more than I bargained for.  As if I had underbid for an expensive piece of art, and awarded the treasure for a mere steal, only to get it home, unwrap it and find a hidden stash of $100 bills tied up within.

The more I know of him, the more I see character that I didn’t know was there.  There is a certain comfort in knowing someone so well.  Being able to anticipate what they think about this or that, knowing their tastes. Some of my favorite conversations with him lately have been knowing what he was going to say before he said it and vice versa.

If I had to be honest, I imagined what a blessing I would be to HIM, but find myself more often overwhelmed with what a blessing he has been to me.  He is steady and consistent.  I love how well he thinks through situations and issues, how he helps us through a disagreement.  He has taught me, an often overly-emotional and impulsive individual, to think through a situation and be more logical.  Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t marry Jesus, I married a sinner, and on any given day there are things that irritate me about him way more than they should.  I would imagine that he would say the same about me.  But I did marry a good man.  And he has my confidence.  He is safe to me.  His opinion and thoughts are invaluable and matter most to me.

And as we grow older together, I anticipate being more in sync with one another.  I imagine that I’ve only skimmed the surface of all there is to know about him.  My mom told me once how after nearly 40 years of marriage, she is still surprised to learn different pieces about my dad.

I thought I ought to reserve these kinds of posts for birthdays and milestone anniversaries, but I want him to know that on an insignificant, gloomy day in June, that his wife’s thoughts and emotions were filled with deep gratitude for the man that he is.